Take action after your break-up with these 12 tips…
So you find yourself single, whether it’s your choice or not. You are now single and no longer in a relationship, whether it was for 3 months, 3 years or decades.
What do you do? And how are you treating yourself?
In the beginning you don’t know whether you are coming or going, you may forget to eat, or eat too much. Sleeping all day or keeping yourself so busy that you forget to really live life. Sure I’ve been there, feeling confused, doing this, not doing that, forgetting what I wanted in life, and how I want to live my life.
In the beginning life may feel foreign, and when you feel like it is, you need to ensure you are loving yourself, caring for yourself and know you need to move forward, not backwards or worst, becoming stuck.
You need to ensure you are aware of your behaviour, being self-aware is key to ensuring you are living your life to your full potential.
Ok, you maybe feeling overwhelmed and confused right now, but ask yourself, “What do I want from life?” And with being single after your break-up you have an opportunity to grow, to love from within and experience life like you never have before.
You need to take extra care of yourself from being relationship you to single you, and with that I want to share 12 tips and have you taking action now.
Remember to:
Rediscovering who you are and what is new for you can be an exciting time after your break-up. Embrace it all and make sure to take care of yourself along the journey.
What do you do? And how are you treating yourself?
In the beginning you don’t know whether you are coming or going, you may forget to eat, or eat too much. Sleeping all day or keeping yourself so busy that you forget to really live life. Sure I’ve been there, feeling confused, doing this, not doing that, forgetting what I wanted in life, and how I want to live my life.
In the beginning life may feel foreign, and when you feel like it is, you need to ensure you are loving yourself, caring for yourself and know you need to move forward, not backwards or worst, becoming stuck.
You need to ensure you are aware of your behaviour, being self-aware is key to ensuring you are living your life to your full potential.
Ok, you maybe feeling overwhelmed and confused right now, but ask yourself, “What do I want from life?” And with being single after your break-up you have an opportunity to grow, to love from within and experience life like you never have before.
You need to take extra care of yourself from being relationship you to single you, and with that I want to share 12 tips and have you taking action now.
Remember to:
- Take care of yourself emotionally, feel your emotions, such as fear, anger, guilt and grief, you have to release the pain and also remember to do it gently, you and only you know how you are feeling and it’s ok to take your time. By doing this you will begin to open up and reconnect with yourself.
- Choose to be physically active. Ensuring you are looking after yourself mentally is important, however, also being active is important and by keeping fit you allow to tap into your mental state at the same time. It doesn’t have to be full on gym sessions 7 days a week, but a brisk walk, yoga, jog, or light weights will have you moving and feeling great. Being active gives you wonderful mental health and at the same time keeps your energy levels high.
- Focus on moving forward rather than getting caught up in the past – the more you sit and wonder and question “what if”, or trying to over analyse the why, will only prolong your healing to move forward. Give this time a chance to look at what you have now and focus on the present to make an incredible future.
- Ask yourself what is important? Look at writing down your short term goals and also your long term goals. By having a focus on what you want out of life even if you think you can’t get it will give you motivation to start moving in the right direction. You need to open up with yourself and be real.
- Journal. Journal daily if you can, it can help you track your progress, see how you are feeling day to day and what is happening. You may start to see a pattern whether it is a positive or negative, and with journaling you also have a great way to release what you feel. There is nothing worse than holding in what you feel, writing it down on paper is a wonderful release.
- Write a mission. Having a personal self-mission is a great way to remind yourself of who you want to be. Writing either a divorce mission or a YOU mission will ensure you are on the right track. Going back to your mission often will keep you on track.
- Create new habits – there may have been beliefs and habits you showed during your relationship. Was it you? Take this time to look at things differently, I am not saying change, but perhaps look at creating new habits, you have a chance to grow now. What’s important to you?
- Find ways to include meditation in your everyday life – I am a big believer meditation is a gift from within and with meditation in your everyday life, you will become more grounded, you will find yourself being a better person, a calmer person. If you cannot sit quietly and meditate with the focus of your breath, try an app. There are some great apps out there, 1 Giant Mind or buddhify. If you find guided meditations also a challenge, think of different ways to meditate such as gardening or riding a bicycle.
- Focus on self-love – being kind to yourself gives you respect to yourself. Self-love can be taking care of your appearance, maybe have a bath and taking the time to just be. It maybe painting your nails, making your bedroom a sacred area for peace and love.
- Have a healthy diet – be mindful of what you put in your body, it can have major impact in your life, anything from having you feel and look youthful and full of energy, to being overweight, angry with no energy. Each time you prepare yourself a meal do it with love and take notice what you are putting in your body. Ask yourself will this food nourish me? And how do you feel after you eat. Are you eating to make yourself feel good, or because you are hungry?
- Use affirmations. Affirmations can be a wonderful way to look at your life in a positive way. Try incorporating them daily by saying simple phrases such as “I am loved”. Find words, phrases that give you love and positive feedback, words that will lift you. Stick them up around your home, save them on your phone, have them at work, wherever you will see them, and repeat them often to yourself. See the shift within yourself.
- Have a vision a board. A vision board can be a wonderful way to see where you want your life to go. Anything you want, be it a healthy fit body, a beautiful home, a happy support group, a holiday, put them on a board, a wall or in a book and start collecting your vision. Have fun with it, adding colours, textures and words.
Rediscovering who you are and what is new for you can be an exciting time after your break-up. Embrace it all and make sure to take care of yourself along the journey.
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