I hear often...
“But I’m a single mum, I can’t do that or commit to that”.
“I’m a single mum and don’t have the funds”.
“I’m a single mum and it’s hard”.
I know I have been there with the same beliefs. The words I use and the stigma of being a 'single mum' had me thinking recently, are we focusing more on the ‘victim’ mindset of being a single mum and the reality it is hard, or could we change the negative stigma of what a ‘single mum’ is and embrace the endless possibilities of being empowered. Sure we have tough days, and maybe we can’t have everything we had before. But having a negative mindset with being a single mum I don’t want anymore.
Because I am a woman, yes a single woman, yes a mum who co parents, however, I am still a woman with a mission to live my best life. And every time we say but… I am a single mum… but… I have to do this myself… we find ourselves living a struggled life. The story you tell yourself is the life you will live. You need to feed your mind with the belief you are more than a 'single mum' you need to focus on positive and empowering thoughts, thoughts, beliefs that share the story of who you want to be and how you want to feel.
So what about we change it? Change the story we tell ourselves and focus on who we are as a woman and embrace the tough days because the reality is, you are better off than being is a hostile or unloved relationship. What if you could be in a loving relationship with yourself and accept everything that comes your way.
Taking out the ‘single mum’ status and owning who I am has me in control of what I want in life. It has me empowered. It makes me want to show my children anything is possible even when your life you once thought was going one way, can in fact head in a different direction, a direction that will work well for you! You have a choice.
Who is with me?
What will you choose today? To accept the negative stigma that it will be challenging every day, or be empowered with a clear mindset of what you want moving forward?
Two effective tips you can do today to ensure you are being empowered by your status and not using it to not live your life are:
Have a mission, a mission of you!
I mentioned about having a loving relationship with yourself and there is no better way to get clear than writing a mission for yourself. Let’s grab pen and paper and start writing. Having a personal self-mission is a great way to remind yourself of who you want to be. What is true for you? What person do you want to be today and every day after?
Getting clear on your core values.
Getting clear on your core values, sets you up day in and day out. It enables you and ensures you are on the right track with you daily choices. If you are always telling yourself the story of struggle but one of your core values is striving to do my best everyday. Then how does that work for you? Get clear and live the way you want to. Choose 3-5 important core values for you, not for anyone else but for you to live by.
Embrace who you are and change your mindset, change the story you are telling yourself and live your life all of it the ups and the downs and be empowered everyday.
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