Feeling isolated after your break-up? Try these 5 things…

   Imagine being able to feel happy and confident every day as you adjust from relationship me to single me.

Knowing you will be ok, no matter what.  To wake up with energy, a love for life for yourself, and knowing you will no longer crave that feeling to need someone or feeling like nothing and nobody cares you exist.

Going through a break-up can feel isolated at times.  But you have a chance to not be that person, who stays home and overthinks now being single me, means alone, no motivation, stuck and confused and having the feeling of not knowing what to do with your time.  Not enjoying your own company, little lone what to do with your own company.

When you find yourself unsure what to do with your time, remember these things:

1. Connection with others.  By connecting with others, whether it is male or female, or even animals, it really doesn’t matter, can change your mood in minutes. The importance of connecting with another helps you feel less isolated.  It gives you a sense of accomplishment.  What I mean by that, is you are off the couch, no longer addicted to Netflix.  You are having conversations with others that are not only with yourself. Joining a meetup group or local community group, reaching out to friends who you haven’t connected with for some time, becoming a foster carer of an animal in need, whatever it is, getting back out into the community gives you a purpose, it gives YOU back.

2. Read and read some more.  Not into reading?  Now is the time to grab a book, whether the book is fiction or non-fiction.  A great way to get back into reading is join a local book club. There have been a few great books I have read recently being fiction; Burial Rites by Hannah Kent, The Dry by Jane Harper and The Strays by Emily Bitto.  Let’s grab some girl power and become lost in a novel to give you something other than your everyday life to think about.  Prefer non-fiction? Books I am loving also are; Pretty Happy by Kate Hudson, You can heal your life by Louise Hay and Miracles Now by Gabrielle Bernstein.  What are your interests?  Start with books that you have an interest in, it will have you reading in no time.

3. Get active.  This can be anything from, going for walk, join a dance class, the gym.  Join a running group.  There is ParkRun located in most major cities and surroundings.  I am sure if you checked out meetup you would find a group of runners, walkers, hikers where you can join in.  What about getting stuck in your garden.  Don’t have a garden?  Grab some pots and put them on your patio and plant some herbs.  Fresh herbs add amazing natural flavours to your cooking.

4. On the note of cooking.  Grab some friends, or work colleagues and start a ‘pot luck dinner’, this can be done once a month or fortnight and you could have a theme.  Maybe a curry night, or flavours from Asia.  It’s a great chance to get back into the kitchen and make amazing food to share.  There is definitely something special about the company of others when eating.  And let’s face it, eating alone each night can for some, give no motivation to always cooking a healthy meal.  Setting up the dinner with many different flavours can be done on a budget and the list is really endless.

5. Start a new hobby.  Come on be honest, I am sure there is something you want to achieve that has been on your mind, but you were too young, too old, have kids, married, no time, have no idea how to begin.  The reality is we as humans are always evolving.  Which means we need to be learning all the time. Our brains are active and need stimulation constantly.  If you don’t give yourself something to continue to learn, think of all the incredible things you are missing out on.  Want to learn a language and study a country you have only dreamt of visiting?  Think you are a pretty great artist? There are always art classes available at local community centres or perhaps even at an art gallery. 

Ask yourself:  What is it I really want to learn? 

You may surprise yourself.

The best thing is to ensure you are not sitting home alone day in day out. 

So start writing a list of all the things you can do and want to do. 

What makes you smile?
Makes your heart skip a beat?
What gets you motivated and wanting to jump out of bed each morning?
What do you want to do?

Start today.  Remember there is always something to do and someone to connect with, it’s your mindset that needs to change to get you moving and enjoying things where you no longer feel isolated.

Need more motivation?  Book in for a free call today, and let’s get you unstuck and motivated.