Are you a single mum who does selfies?
It made me think as I was looking through my camera roll on my phone yesterday. I have become a selfie addict. Not just of myself but also with my children.
Why has the selfie taken over my camera roll I thought?
The more I think about it, I was never in a lot of photos when my children were growing up. I was the one behind the camera taking the photos and movies of my children and their Dad. As a parent we want to capture all the moments as our children are growing up. They were beautiful moments and there are many more beautiful moments to come. As I write this I laugh at a thought because I was going through old footage about a year ago and noticed when filming on holidays I would turn the camera on myself and talk, talk random things, just so I was on camera… I wanted to capture every moment and more so now as a single parent.
My children are now teenagers and I guess we don’t tend to take as many photos as we did when they were younger so the selfie is a great addition to the camera roll.
Over time I have become the selfie addict of a single mum. I do this because I want to capture the moment. Maybe wanting to capture each moment including me was a little guilt from divorcing their father, who knows. But I guess what I know right now, I love the selfie and the moments I capture with my children. And yes to their dismay and eye rolls, we capture many selfies. Nice smiling ones and ones with silly faces and laughter and yes those wicked eye rolls. I ask every time we venture out let’s take a selfie, and my son would say, “Mum are you going to post this?” as I hear the worry in his voice, only for me to say, “no… I want to just capture the moment”. And it’s true, it is to capture the moment.
Selfie’s have become the new normal of my camera roll and I am sure probably for many.
The teens of today are selfie experts, obessed perhaps... and I didn’t want to be like ‘that’, but what is ‘that’. To be in the moment and capture it? It really isn’t a bad thing at all. I think they are onto something!
But for me it’s because I want to be in the photos too, since our family dynamics changed, so did a lot of other aspects of our lives too. Holidays became even more interactive between us, dinners out contained young adult conversations. Being together often has become a new normal, because my children and I don’t see each other every day, and when we do, we tend to stick together more often than not.
I am sentimental, always have been, right down to when my daughter was 1 and I started a tradition to dress her in my wedding dress each year to watch her grow, so yes I love mementos and the knowing, that depending on the day we can see what is happening. In the past three years, I have taken more than a 1000 selfies..., some with my children, some with just me and some with my girlfriends and yes even with Grandma! It’s not that I don’t want to ask someone to take a photo, but it has become such a habit to take the selfie that I will just take one because why not? Technology has made it so much easier to hold onto the memories more so, not just in our heart but of images and movies to share with others, or just for ourselves.
Years ago I would question friends for taking the selfie, geez I would even question my daughter, why?, but over time I have come accustomed to the beauty of a selfie and what it means to me, me as Joanne and me as Mum - capturing the moment in an instant. Sometimes we are alone and we want to capture the moment too, the selfie is the best way, so why not.
Do you do selfie’s? And how often?
Selfie’s have now become a birthday tradition in our family and it will continue for many more years.
The selfie although seemed overrated years ago, is actually a great way to capture you and your loved ones, with the feelings that come with the day, and the activities you are up to. I love doing them and sometimes they work and sometimes they don’t like the one I added above. Absolute selfie fail at the beach on a windy cool day, with the three of us, and I think there may have been some screams, yelling MUM!!! going on, but needless to say, I did finally get the selfie.
Happy snapping and don’t feel like you can’t selfie. Enjoy it.