Do you believe in Karma? I saw a post and reposted it on social media earlier this week.
I checked on the net what the meaning of Karma is: Karma means action, work or deed; it also refers to the spiritual principle of cause and effect where intent and actions of an individual (cause) influence the future of that individual (effect). Good or bad luck, viewed as resulting from one's actions. So according to the theory of Karma, what happens to a person, happens because they caused it with their actions.
I built Joanne Michelle with the kindness and support for women going through a breakup, a place of positivity, love, forgiveness and calm. Where my support and energy is more on you moving forward than negative feelings towards your ex and wanting revenge and karma to happen. I don’t believe in karma as such, I do believe that however, what you put out you receive. By living a positive healthy life, you will be surrounded by this.
Yes the post I reposted was cheeky, rude, not the image I portray. But I liked it. It was real. The reality is, our lives are not always kittens and roses. We have moments of down... Our moments of doubt when our ex has us wondering about ourselves, the actions he may be behaving affecting our train of thought, our self confidence… perhaps he tries to manipulate and control a situation for their own benefit. I received a comment from a woman who seemed upset and confused. She said it was vindictive when what I coach is about forgiving and moving on with your life. Yes that is true. The post may reflect that.
I’ll share you a little story. I'm human. I am real. I feel pain. And every day I live a life of purpose, a life of love, not only for myself and my children but for my whole family that includes my ex-spouse, even if he doesn’t see it that way. My support to women is to believe in yourself, to love yourself to see the good. By coming from a place of love you are allowing yourself to move forward in a peaceful calm way.
But let’s get real, there are moments of not and it’s ok. Where there are issues you are dealing with, with your ex-spouse, we tend to notice the behaviour (the negative) of them, and indeed ourselves. It is a direct mirror of how the behaviour was in the relationship. If your ex was withdrawn and showing this afterward, it is more than likely he was that way in the relationship. If he is showing a mannerism of being manipulative, insensitive, yes it was probably happening in the relationship. It’s good to be aware of this behaviour as it indicates to you to not set yourself up for unrealistic expectations. By realising this, you have more control of the situations.
From my trainings, experiences and time with my own healing I have learnt to let go, let go of his behaviour. I have embraced who I am and who I have become since my breakup, since my divorce. To be true to me 100%. To not expect or even hope the ex will change… To know that the behaviour whether it is good or bad will reflect how his life will be lived, portrayed. And that also goes for us. What we put out there we will receive in return.
So yes, I saw this post and it was a moment of HA!
You know I try my best, and I know you all try your best too, but sometimes we feel raw and being ok with it is ok. So don't be so hard on yourself. Give yourself some time. Some time to feel the emotion.
It’s your actions that say it all. Did I take revenge? NO. Did I want karma or thought karma will get him? NO. I never want anything bad or vindictive to happen to my ex-spouse. Or anyone for that matter.
What happened in your relationship does not define who you are today, unless you allow it. What it will do though is help you learn how to move forward, in a positive way. Yes you can learn from your mistakes, from his mistakes, but by living in the past, having resentment, that will not help you to move forward. If your ex-spouse is behaving in a way that may upset you or have you wanting to react in a way that will not serve you. Let go, get legal advice, contact your support team, but don’t stoop to their level, you are better than that and you will get through it.
With this repost, it showed what most of us feel at times, and there is nothing wrong with feeling it. The women I support know I don’t push this karma BS, but I won’t apologise for feeling vulnerable at times and having a moment of feeling yeah maybe it will…
Let’s be real, I am human with feelings, but the most important thing I can say to you, is be true to yourself always.
Let go, you are worth it.