Don't want to eat?
Drinking too much?
Want to sleep all day?
Constantly throwing up?
Wanting to hide from everyone you know?
Maybe even stalking your ex until your heart bleeds?
The first 24 hours after your break-up are the hardest, it’s confusing and absolutely brutal. You feel as though the whole world is against you. You question everything and can't think straight. It feels like you will never get over him.
But over time it does become easier to accept, but if you don’t get out of your funk and try to let go, who knows how long it will take for you to heal.
After your break-up the last thing you feel like doing is wanting to be happy and positive and socialising. Maybe you just want to sleep all day, drink too much, eat nothing, throw up, and hide from everyone you know, or stalk your ex until your heart bleeds. Whatever you are feeling and doing after your break-up, right now is probably not the right thing for you.
Remember love and relationships are tough, and you will get through it
Try to find love in everything in your life right now. By choosing to find love in your life you are allowing your energy to feel powerful. Focus on being positive, even though you may hate him right now and everything else around you, being positive and grateful for the good times you had with him, will help you. When choosing to focus on the negative and everything that has gone wrong will not serve you, it will only make you powerless, you will not think clearly.
Choose love always
Accept and feel your emotions. I’ve mentioned this before and it works. CRY. Crying is a healing tool, you can feel so much better after a good cry, so let your body just be and just feel what it is doing. Let out a big howl and once you have, see the difference within yourself.
Have no contact. If you have to try to leave it for the next few weeks, try not to have any contact with him. Get off social media and tell anyone who is a mutual friend you don’t want to know anything about him. Right now you need to switch him off and switch you on. It won’t be easy, however as the days past, you will start to feel lighter and the stress of wanting contact will ease. If you feel the urge to send him a message or call him, choose a friend to message or call instead. Write it down on paper what you want to say and then throw it away.
Make sure to look after yourself. Remember to eat and eat food that will nourish your body. A break-up can take its toll on your body physically, make an effort to look after yourself. Run a bath and have a soothing soak and be kind to yourself. Go for a walk in the fresh air and embrace the beauty of this world. Keep moving and keep loving yourself.
Try not to be alone for too long. Time alone after your break-up can seem like days when it’s only hours. Get yourself out and check in with your closest friends or family. Keep doing what you normally do, get out and be social even if you have to pretend to be happy, getting out and connecting with others is soothing for the soul, once you have made the effort to get out, you will feel better.
Remember this break-up will pass and you will be ok