I woke up with a head cold on Sunday and all I wanted to do was sleep.. My head was aching, my throat dry like sandpaper, and every part of my body hurt. I don’t get sick too often and I was so annoyed the cold hit me. Staying in bed and resting was really all I wanted to do, but I couldn’t I had to ensure the children were looked after, they were fed, ensured social media wasn’t their top priority for the day and to check on their assignment work they needed to do, due the next day!
The washing needed to be done, the cooking, the cleaning, and the grammar check on the assignments and so on...
My children are incredible and help out (most of the time), but I kind of felt I was not being the best mum that day… Sunday is our Funday where we spend time together. This Sunday was not my Funday… It made me realise if I had the extra help on Sunday I would of healed a whole lot sooner, by just resting, allowing my body to rid the dreaded head cold that seems to be hitting town.
What I have learnt and have become more at ease with and accepted is our life has changed.. And it’s ok if the washing isn’t all done on the day, so what if the meal that you wanted to cook is now compromised with a simpler dish. And the house, it can be cleaned later in the week.
Becoming ok with this took time
I am an organised person, I like order (ok I may be a little of a perfectionist…) and having the additional help always made these chores easier as they were shared, so what if it isn’t exactly perfect. The children are happy, they are fed and warm and it will be ok.
By realising that life doesn’t have to be perfect every day and to remember you are doing your best as a single parent is all that matters. I have accepted the house isn’t as ordered as I once had and I’m ok with it.
On Sunday I found myself at times sneaking off to bed and resting, leaving the mess and the washing and I gave myself some time to heal. The children were fine (maybe the social media was a little high in use for them) but the assignment work was completed, they were fed and happy.
Remember the household dynamic will change and it’s ok to let go a little and know you are doing your best. It’s ok if the washing is a day or more later and you are having tuna and rice again!
Look after yourself this season and remember you are doing your best.
Below is my go to drink when the head cold kicks in:
1 lemon, Juiced
1 clove of garlic, crushed
2cm ginger, grated
Honey to taste
Cayenne pepper, a pinch
Add juice of lemon to a mug with boiled water that has sat for a few minutes, add garlic and ginger, cover and seep for 10 minutes. Strain into a cup and add honey to taste (approx. 1 tsp) and a pinch of cayenne pepper. Sip before bed.