Gossip: stealing your rights…
It can be an uncomfortable feeling being part of a rumour or gossip, especially when people are talking about your family.
I recently had an encounter with a person who knows my ex-spouse and things of our relationship, things that happened during my divorce on other levels too.
If it's not true, it’s stealing your right of who you are.
If it's true, it’s taking away your right to privacy and ownership of your own story.
I don’t have time for it, it’s a waste of energy, however, there was something this person said that made me curious, and from the comment I wanted this person to elaborate. But why? Yes I felt winded, knocked down hard... but does it matter what ever this person would say? It wouldn't change the way I thought of myself, my ex and the way I'm living my life. So with that, I chose to remove myself from the conversation.
It made me think, was this person saying something to see my reaction? Or to hurt me... The reality is it’s not this persons business and to make a comment was hurtful. When this happens, you need to let it go, and not let it affect you.
So how do you deal with someone like this person? How do you let go of the thoughts that run through your mind… wondering about what people are saying and what people think of you.
People have opinions, we are humans, we are curious creatures, and the reality is there will always be opinions good and bad from people you know and people you don't know, or know your story. Sadly, there isn’t a way to keep them from talking about you, but you have a choice on how you react and feel about it. The people who gossip are selfish people, hurtful people and when others want to say things about you, perhaps it's to make themselves feel good...
Was this person wanting to feel good? so they didn’t have to deal with their own personal issues?…
It takes a lot of effort to move on from an unhealthy relationship, from a broken marriage and when you heal yourself from within, you need to accept what you hear, whether it's true or not. Don't give it a life and let the gossip interfere with how far you have come already, just let it go.
Don’t let them dim your sparkle, and burst your bubble, you are better than that, and I want you to remember these four things next time you feel someone is trying to hurt you with gossip:
You are an amazing woman with your own beautiful gifts to share
with your community in your world.
You have a right in this lifetime to not be judged…
Don't give the gossip a life, let it go and move on.
casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details which are not confirmed as true.